So I have this friend named Katie. We go to church together so I know that she believes in God and knows the Bible fairly well since she grew up in a Christian home.
I found out the other day from another friend at church that Katie has met a guy on the internet. Apparently this guy is divorced, has a kid, just got out of jail, and he doesn't believe in God. She thinks she loves this guy and she says he is really cute.
Ok so my question is why? Why would you even give this guy the time of day? People on the internet are not always honest. If he told her all of this, what is he hiding?
My guess is that she is afraid of never finding anyone. She is almost 30 and never really dated anyone. But why stoop so low. I just don't get it. I never lowered my standards.
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Why are people so stupid??
Pray for your friend. May she not get hurt in all of this.
Dear Father, May your will be done. Please Father.
Amen
It's a common problem with women unfortunately.
My brother met someone with no faith on the internet. Actually, turns out she is Wiccan, so there is that. Anyway, he went out to meet her, got her pregnant, married her, quit his faith, and stopped contacting us.
Whether that happens with her I would imagine depends upon her strength. Certainly doesn't HAVE to go down that way.
Have they met? Are they close enough to meet?
They haven't met but she wants to. She is also a virgin and she told our other friend that she would be tempted to sleep with him if she saw him in person.
I'm sorry RS about your brother. That sucks. Maybe someday he will contact you again.
She is so stupid because she's so gullible and emotionally needy. So in in a sense you're right, she thinks this is her big break.
Xtian will be realy happy you put that last sentence in there!LOL!
Welcome to blogging! Sometime you'll have to explain your name as he couldn't do it even in 6 pages!
D.
I have a 25-year-old daughter who spent three years shacking-up (and shagging-down) with - how shall I say it? - an abusive asshole with a ten-pound criminal record. It took him all of three months to wreck her credit, but she couldn't bring herself to leave his sorry ass until he left her pregnant with a child he had no intention of raising. As far as I can tell 'emotionally needy' would be a fairly apt account of her state of mind. (If you want a really excellent grade of parental guilt-trip, start by asking yourself what you did to cause your daughter to be THAT 'emotionally needy')
I will say that your ability to 'save' Katie from her own stupidity will probably be maddeningly small. . .
And, listen, I don't mean to be snide (I really don't, but you know this is gonna sound like it, if I'm trying to be this earnest about not wanting you to think I'm being snide) (really, I'm just honestly interested in your perspective). . . but wouldn't all that sex that you and XH were having before you were married have been some kind of a 'lowering of your standards'?
(Way to get things off on a good foot, Desmond. . . yeef)
"She is almost 30 and never really dated anyone. But why stoop so low"
Perhaps she finally realised that her closeted upbringing had not served her emotional needs and she began to develop free will, which also means giving oneself permission to make mistakes.
Desmond: but wouldn't all that sex that you and XH were having before you were married have been some kind of a 'lowering of your standards'?
Possibly so but not what I am talking about in terms of lowering my standards.
I knew that XH was a Christian and was of the same faith as me. He came from a good family of believers. I knew all of this before the first time we had sex. I actually knew (because I am extremely intuitive) that I was going to marry him. And it wasn't that ooey gooey stuff like "ooh I'm goin' marry him." I actually knew it.
I didn't lower my standards, I (we) just sinned.
Thanks, Z; I appreciate you answering my question. As I looked at it a second/third/etc. time, I realized that that wasn't a very nice way for me to introduce myself to you (probably making a large presumption, based on my friendship w/ your husband).
Of course I didn't mean 'lowering your standards' in terms of settling for less of a man than you might have (I think he's a pretty good guy, too). But lowering moral 'standards' was more what I was asking about (sort of a twisting of your words); and you answered my question very graciously (more than I deserved, probably). Thanks.
desmond, You have been handled with grace. When I read your question last night I flinched.
Z , I know what you mean. When I met my wife I knew that we will get married after two weeks of dating. We got married about 3 years later with a 6month breakup in between.
I feel pity for your friend Z, to be 30 and never even really dated ? I would have been desperate. I really hope that she wakes up before it is too late.
Or who knows. God is powerfull, He can change this man into something good. All people were made in God's image. I believe that means that we all have the potential to reflect that image.
desmond, You have been handled with grace.
Yes, my wife DOES rock.
Z and I were talking last night about this situation. If this girl was to spend a little time at the gym, get any sort of attractive haircut, and learn how to dress she would probably be reasonably attractive. She just puts out no effort and then gets all upset and desperate when she doesn't get the male attention she really wants.
Well, that and she also needs to get away from her mom and dad for a bit. Not that I have anything against her parents -- they are great people -- but when you are 30 and you still hang out with them more than anyone else then there are issues.
Welcome to the Blog sphere.
Do pray for Katie, because God is the one who can get through to her. But also pray for wisdom for if and when He wants you to say something.
I was 32 before I met My Sweet - so she is far from over the hill. And tell her not meet this guy alone. Not only does she have her own temptations to flee, but he could be any kind of psycho.
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